When I was eighteen, I sat at the mahogany dining table with acceptance letters spread out before me from the University of Virginia and Boston College. I had a near perfect GPA and glowing recommendations, which I thought might finally earn me a seat at the table of their affection.
My mother picked up my UVA letter and glanced at it with the same disdain she might show a dish she didn’t intend to order. “Why would we spend that kind of money on your schooling?” she asked, setting the paper back down.
“You’re a girl, Jada,” she continued, “and eventually you will get married and be a guest in someone else’s house, but Wesley needs an education that reflects his true potential.”
My father sat there staring into his black coffee with a tight jaw, saying absolutely nothing to defend me or my dreams. That silence eventually became the background noise of my life, teaching me that sons were the foundations of our family while daughters were merely temporary fixtures.
